Keeping up with friends we don’t see regularly is hard. Add ADHD + zero structure, and it can feel nearly impossible.
I’ve lived in 7 states, and I’m lucky to say I still have friends in all of them. Am I great at staying in touch? Not naturally. So instead of relying on memory or guilt, I’ve created a few low-resistance ways to reconnect that actually work for me.
If there’s someone you’ve been thinking about but haven’t reached out to yet, see if one of my strategies sounds sparkly enough to you to try:
Tip #1: Send the “No Big Deal” Text
You don’t need a long explanation or apology.
- Try something simple like:
“I’m thinking of you and would love to catch up. Do you have time to schedule a call in the next week or two?” - Short, warm, and clear = much easier to send (and receive).
- Bonus: You’re suggesting a next step, not just “we should talk sometime.”
Tip #2: Put It on the Calendar (Future You Will Thank You)
One-off calls are easy to forget. Repeating plans reduce decision fatigue.
Ideas that work well:
- Coffee Fridays
- First-Monday Lunch
- Wednesday Night Call (1x/month)
Coach tip: Before you end the call, check schedules and book the next one
- It’s much easier to reschedule something that already exists than to start from scratch. This has been my most successful strategy long-term.
Tip #3: Send Actual Mail (Snail Mail)
Yes, really.
- A short card or note can be incredibly meaningful.
- No back-and-forth required.
- It says, “I was thinking of you,” in a way that stands out.
Reconnecting doesn’t require perfect follow-through. What works for you when it comes to staying connected or reconnecting? And if the answer is nothing “consistently,” you’re not alone.
